What makes a healthy relationship?

What makes a healthy relationship?
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What will you do if someday you find yourself in an uninhabited place or a deserted island?

Have you ever experienced loneliness?

Relationships – with your spouse or parents or children or friends or your siblings – will never make you feel lonely. Infact relationships give you the sense of self-esteem, enhance your emotional and mental health. In other words, they make you feel complete and live a better life.



According to a psychology professor Arthur Aron, PhD, director of the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at New York’s Stony Brook University, “Relationships are — not surprisingly — enormously important for health, and there are lots of studies on the biological processes that account for the link between relationships and health.”

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The researchers believe that the kind of relationships we share with the people around, have a great effect on our physical health. The support we get from our parents and friends keeps us mentally fit. And if our mind is fit and healthy, our body is also.

Some relationships are more successful than others. Have you ever tried to figure out why? What makes for a good relationship? What steps can you take to make your relationship better? Let’s have a look at some of them:

1. Maintain your mental well-being

One of the significant aspects of a good relationship is the mental health of the people involved in a relationship. If you feel that you are suffering from insecurity or depression or any other similar problem – do consult a health professional. It affects not only you but also your relationships. A friend of mine faced a similar situation. Being in depression for a long time had a great impact not only on his health but also his relationships. So never neglect such a situation.

Another important thing is that if someone around you is having a tough time, just be patient and try to be understanding. The person might be offensive for a while but at the end of the day things will be fine.

2. Create a support system

Do you know what the key ingredient of a great relationship is? It is SUPPORT of our friends and family members. This is the support system that is always there for you. Go and ask for their help and they are ready for you. What is required to build such a relationship is your effort and attention. The more you put in, the more you get.

3. Keep the lines of communication open

The relationships are bound to have conflicts. But the problem is that people don’t know how to deal with them. The best solution is to communicate. Lack of communication leads to stress and affects our mental and physical health.

Positive interactions lead to satisfying relationships. So open your heart out and just sort out the problem.

4. Be careful of unhealthy relationships

A perfect relationship all the time is just a fantasy. No doubt, a good relationship makes you feel secured and happy. It gives you a sense of freedom. But if you feel that you are in a kind of relationship where you are controlled by the other person or feel fearful, watch out. Such unhealthy relationships can have a great impact on you.

5. Make healthy boundaries

A healthy and sound relationship can also be achieved by creating limitations. This gives a better understanding of what your partner wants from this relationship. Boundaries don’t mean that you are being imprisoned. It does not mean suspicion or distrust – it tells you about what makes you comfortable and what you expect from the relationship or what you want to avoid.

At the same time, a healthy boundary doesn’t mean that:

  • You cannot go out with your friends without your boyfriend or girlfriend
  • Cannot indulge in your hobbies
  • You have to share passwords with your partner

Tips for a healthy love relationship:



  • Never postpone your romance for a special occasion. There is no such thing as “right” time. Make everyday special.
  • Never take a back seat in a relationship. Don’t wait for your partner to initiate.
  • Don’t hesitate and be upfront – tell your partner what you want.
  • Don’t look at the bigger picture. Think what I can do today to show my love.
  • Let your partner know about your fantasies and desires.


A boost for a Healthy Relationship

A booster, now and then, keeps the relationship going. If you feel the connection missing between you and your partner or feel that the relationship has gone stale – give it a boost. Look for simple things that you both enjoy together – go for a drive, a movie or a walk, plan a romantic date.



Spend time with people you love. Take time out from your busy schedule and enjoy being YOU!

What do you feel? Are you in a healthy relationship?


Comments (14)

  • Hi Sonal,

    This is a very important article. As someone who has lived the good and bad in a marriage, Communication is first and foremost. The longer a relationship goes, the more settled the partners become and can take one another for granted or lose interest.

    Relationships aren’t easy and the take work, daily work to keep them happy and healthy.

    Thanks for sharing this with us!

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      Hi Brenda
      Absolutely true-communication is the most important thing in any relationship. Lack of communication can destroy a relationship.
      Yes, relationships need effort and nurture. You daily need to work on it to keep it healthy and successful.

  • Hey Sonal,

    I have to agree with you. Great relationships hit turbulent waters at times but if you have clear boundaries and are prepared to communicate openly then you are more able to undergo the hardships life at times throws.

    I really liked the healthy tips you provided. Never never take the back seat in a relationship.

    I do always think that some of the tough talks have to be planned and can wait until there will be no disturbances. I think that is really important.

    And you first tip, never postpone romance for a special occasion. Everyday that person by your side should be shown in little ways what they actually mean to you.

    One of my favorites I continue to say to couples is – your partner is not a mind reader, don’t expect them to be so share what’s on your mind. People will not know what you need until you tell them.

    Thanks for a great post.


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      Hi Rachel Mam

      First of all thanks for agreeing with me. I have seen this as a common problem that in a relationship, guys are not prepared to communicae openly. They want their partner to understand everything.

      I absolutely agree with your statement that we are not mind readers. To make a relationship successful, one has to be vocal.

      Never to postpone romance for a special occasion is one of the best things I have learnt. Make evryday special and let your partner know how much you love him.

  • Hi Sonal ,
    it is right communication is important,controlling is a bad sign ,if there is not rust,it is not a good base.
    In my experience a good relationship is if there is freedom and acceptance.This is my favorite quote about relationship and I can say from my experience this is a truth:”If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.” – Richard Bach
    Thank you ,your post is good to think about

    • Author

      Hi Erika Mam
      I agree that controlling is not good. Acceptance is very important. You should accept both the positives and negatives of your partner.

      This is also one of my favorite quotes.

  • HI Sonal Mam!
    I am very positive after reading your tips for good relationship.
    you know why, because all that you have written here are very practical and happens with every1.
    I love someone and I am not going to wait telling her that i do and how much i do. 🙂
    thanks a lot. and living in the present was the big thing which I have learnt here.
    have a nice day and keep teaching me. LOL. i really need articles like this.,…
    many thanks

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    Hi Vashishtha
    I am glad that you are feeling positive after reading it.
    Yes if you love someone go ahead and tell her. Don’t wait for her.
    Keep learning and stay happy!!

  • Hello Sonal,

    What a lovely and helpful post! Especially for those struggling to know what consists of a healthy relationship.

    I am blessed to have wonderful healthy relationship with my husband. I’ve never felt so free and happy.
    Never thought marriage would allow me to be true to myself. I do credit a lot to my husband who is always giving me sound advice and encouraging to follow my dreams:)

    Every single point you mentioned here is so apt and essential for a healthy relationship.

    I absolutely agree with the tips you offered. I feel many women often have this problem….they would like their partners or spouses to figure what it is they want. But that’s such an unhealthy way to go about a relationship. Unless you speak, how can you expect the other half to know what you want.

    Communication is the key and it’s often overlooked.

    Thank you so much for a great post. Will be coming back for more.

    Wish you a wonderfu week:)

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      Hi Hema

      Thank you so much.

      You are so lucky to have such an understanding husband who stands by you at each step of life. I wish I also get such a wonderful one! Will ask for your tips!

      It is absolutely true that unless we speak, our partners won’t understand. Guys usually are very bad at communication. They expect their partners to understand everything – which in reality is not possible.

      Hope to hear more from you.

      Stay Blessed!

  • Hey Sonal

    Visiting your site for the first time. Good to know you are working hard on improving the lives of the people.

    Coming back to the post, I firmly believe that the healthy relationship forms the base for a happy life. When we go through the harsh turn of life, the support from family and friends eliminates all worries. It gives us the reason to relive all the moments with a big smile on face.

    In healthy relationship, the word ‘authority’ never comes in the picture. Instead of suppressing, both people give ample space to each other. And, this is not restricted to particular type of relationship.

    Thanks Sonal for sharing this wonderful post with all of us. Enjoy your week ahead 🙂

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      Hey Yatin

      Thanks for stopping by!

      Well I am just trying to give some tips….rest everyone needs to work hard and give time and effort to their relationships.

      I have been through tough times and I know what the support of family and friends mean. They are the pillars of strength.

      Absolutely Yatin, a successful relationship does not mean restrictions and limitations. You need to give space to your partner – this strengthens the relationship.

      Hope to hear more from you. Have a great week!

  • Hi Sonal,

    Wonderful post with excellent tips! Definitely a must read for the next man in my life!



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